4th Neurotic pride real self-confidence: to separate convictions and to act accordingly;
development of own ability, benefits and obligations realistic estimate
the child lacks basic trust - develops> neurotic pride
because 1) Prestige values 2) properties that can be wrongly presumes
not proud of his real merits
Proud of primacy of the spirit, because his idealized self-created by spirit
pride in skills that the neurotic does lay claim
pride demands effectively argued to make
pride to meet the internal bids
Those who are proud of their selflessness that benefit others by their helplessness and suffering +
aversion to healthy self-assertion seen as a virtue of modesty
pride in elevation of the compulsory standards -> hold for moral miracle
pride lies not morally, but to know should be like him
to be proud of yourself - so compelling daß er den Gedanken, er sei in der Welt blinder Bedürfnisse, nicht ertragen kann-> formt Bedürfnisse in Tugenden um
klappt nur mit denjenigen, die der Verwirklichung seiners idealisierten Selbst dienen. andere unterdrückt oder verleugnet.
Neurotischer Stolz unstabil -> macht verletzbar
Reaktionen 1) Scham (wir selbst tun) 2) Demütigung (andere verletzen)
Scham wegen Masturbation:
-unwürdig, weil nicht mit Liebe verbunden ist
- erreichte Befriedigung grösser als Sex -> störend für das Vorstellungsbild, nur auf Liebe ausgerichtet zu sein?
- Frage der begleitenden Phantasien?
- Zugeständnis, Bedürfnisse to have?
- too much Zugellosigkeit a stoic man?
- loss of self control?
What kind of pride hurt by masturbation?
1) aggressive type: mainly Demürigung: in his mind he is without blemish selbstverleugnet
2): mainly shame. anxious concern to meet the target
irritability by internal ban hurt to feel Humiliation + shame because of the feeling of humiliation, anger and fear
: concomitantly.
alternatives: pride and self-contempt - to lose> monstrous pride.
pride a) basic b) of vulnerability ->
- if violated, automatically pride reestablish
- avoid injury when pride in danger
Restore: to the offender but by his power, hurt us, can defeat us
neurotic vengeance: triumph through harder slamming
The power to take revenge , selvst can be an object of pride, "strength".
double defeat, if not revenge.
second give up interest in situations or people: possibility to restore pride.
protect pride for the future: prevention system
neurotic process:
1) fantasies
2) Idealized Image
3) energies for the realization of the self to achieve the ideal self redirected
4) Claims - take trying a place in the world, the importance of the idealized self adequately
5) Inner Commandments - for perfection of realizing self
6) system of personal values -> what he can be proud of and what he has to hate.
Reading: Ibsen's Peer Gynt
